Fine Dining With Kids – Everything You Need to Know

Dining out with children is common. But taking them to a fine dining restaurant is different.

The setting is quieter. The courses are longer. The food is unfamiliar. There is often an unspoken pressure to behave a certain way.

As a parent, you may want your child to experience something special. But you also do not want to be judged, stressed, or unprepared.

This fine dining with kids guide explains the fundamentals and offers tips to make your experience smoother for your child and you.

Do All Fine Dining Restaurants Allow Children?

No, not all fine dining restaurants allow children. 

This decision does not mean there is anything wrong with your child. It depends on the restaurant’s setting and its dining experience. In such places, even well-behaved children may feel restless. 

Why Can’t You Take Kids to All Fine Dining Restaurants?

• Age Restriction: Some fine dining restaurants cater only to adults. They may have strict age policies. 

• Kid-Averse Design: The space may be intimate and dimly lit. The restaurant may not offer high chairs or cushioned seating for children.

Eating Experience: Courses can take up to three hours. The food may have complex flavours and delicate presentation, meant to be eaten slowly and attentively. The fine dining etiquette can also be confusing for children.

How to Find a Kid-Friendly Fine Dining Restaurant

It is advisable to take your kids to a fine dining restaurant you have visited before. This way, you know what to expect. But if you are in a new place or want to try a new restaurant, you can follow these steps to find one that welcomes children.

1. Check if the restaurant mentions a minimum age for diners on their website. If this information is missing, contact the restaurant. 

2. Scan customer reviews for family mentions on Google, TripAdvisor and the restaurant’s website. Look for phrases like ‘dined with my kids’ or ‘staff were kind to our child’. 

3. Check photos on the website and Google to gauge the table spacing, lighting, and vibe. Avoid hushed settings. Opt for well-lit dining rooms with spacious seating.

4. Review the menu. Tasting menus with ten or more courses can be overwhelming for children. Look for places that offer a shorter tasting option or an à la carte menu. A flexible menu format gives you more control over the pacing and portion size.

5. Read about the service culture. If the restaurant mentions personalised service, it usually extends to families too. If you can not find any information, call the restaurant to ask.

How to Prepare Your Child for Fine Dining

Before you arrive at a fine dining restaurant, you can talk to your child about the following aspects.

• Explain the concept of fine dining. Help them understand the ambience, the pace of service, portion sizes, and the kind of meals.

• Show photos of the restaurant so the space feels familiar and not intimidating.
  
• Talk them through the flow of food. Let them know the server will guide them.

• Reassure them that it is okay to ask questions or take their time with unfamiliar food.
  
• Set behaviour expectations — speaking softly, staying seated, and being patient while waiting.
  
• Agree on a signal if they feel overwhelmed. A hand gesture or quiet phrase can help you step out together if needed.
  
• Do a quick table manners review. Keep it light and age-appropriate.
  
• Stay calm and relaxed. If your child senses pressure, they may feel anxious too.
  
• Let them feel involved. Allow them to choose their outfit or bring their favourite item, like a sketchpad or book.
  
• Encourage them to try at least one bite of each course. Frame it as a culinary adventure.

Note: This guidance is mainly for children between 3 and 10 years old. They are old enough to follow basic instructions. But they still need support in new settings.

Fine Dining With Kids: Tips

Do’s:

• Choose a time slot that suits your child’s energy and mood. Some children are more relaxed earlier in the day. Others manage better in the evening. 

• Inform the restaurant when booking that you are dining with a child.

• While booking your table, check if the restaurant has clean, well-maintained high chairs or booster seats. 

• Ask if the chef is open to offering simpler, high-quality dishes for children or can modify existing menu items. This does not mean a standard ‘kids menu’ of fried foods. It could be a small risotto with seasonal vegetables. Or a lightly seared piece of beef or tofu with minimal seasoning.

• Mention your child’s dietary preferences or allergies during the reservation. The staff can let you know in advance what is possible. Some children may not like some of

• The common ingredients found in fine dining menus, so it is advisable to check the menus of the restaurant beforehand. 

• Check if prams or strollers are allowed. Not all restaurants have space to store them. Some entrances are narrow or include steps. A compact, foldable stroller is more practical.

• Choose off-peak hours if possible. Earlier time slots are calmer and reduce waiting time. If you are dining close to your child’s bedtime, consider a restaurant near your home.

• Let your child place their order or speak to the server if they prefer to do so.

• Carry with you the following items, depending on your child’s age:
  • Wipes or tissues to discreetly manage spills or sticky fingers.
  • A quiet comfort item (sketchpad, colouring book, or puzzle) to help younger children feel secure in a new setting.
  • Child’s water bottle (if allowed). Some children are more comfortable drinking from their bottle.
  • Any personal essentials, like medication, a spare set of clothes, or a small cushion for comfort.

Dont’s:

• Do not expect perfect behaviour from your child. They may fidget, speak loudly, or leave food unfinished. 
• Avoid electronic toys and other noisy or messy distractions.
• Do not expect the restaurant to adapt at the last minute.

Visit Apéritif Fine Dining Restaurant in Bali

Apéritif Restaurant in Bali welcomes guests of all ages to its exceptional fine dining experience. The ambience is elegant but comfortable. The staff is friendly and guides guests through the meal. They are happy to accommodate special requests where possible. Book now.